I started this post originally with thoughts on chaos but as I wrote the message took a slightly different turn (as it often does).
The “turn” I refer to is the realization that having a discomfort with chaos leads to a comfort with control.
And here’s why…
When your life feels out of control; appointment times or plans change with no warning, you’re given little to no information about an important event, the “I’s” aren’t dotted and the “t’s” aren’t crossed the result (emotionally speaking) feels chaotic because you don’t know what to expect.
Not knowing what to expect doesn’t feel safe. In fact, it feels down right scary! So scary that you feel compelled to control your situation as best you can to ensure your security (the world isn’t safe, others will somehow screw up or screw you over, if I don’t do it, it won’t get done, etc.).
You can proudly say you are a “control freak” because you like order or you are efficient or you don’t trust others will get it right but is that the only reason?
While watching the movie Parenthood, the character of grandma said it best when she explained how she felt being on a roller coaster ride. “Up and down, up and down” it amazed her that one ride could make her feel frightened, apprehensive and exhilerated all at the same time. “Others didn’t approve” and preferred the merry go round. Round and round in circles it goes. No excitement. No apprehension. Nothing.
If you can pull back on the reins in your life (even a little) like a roller coaster ride you may just get to experience the beautifully unpredictable ebb and flow of life. The merry go round is safe – no doubt – but what might you be missing out on?
Until next time,
Liz Pabon
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